If you are looking for couples therapy in San Diego, it is possible that you might be finding yourself wondering what happened to the relationship you once had?
Is the spark fading? or perhaps you are finding yourselves having the same arguments over and over and you are wondering if there is a way to stop this rollercoaster of emotions? There is a way back, let me help you.
It does not matter if you are a new couple or one that has been together for 35 years, married, dating, engaged, living together, living together apart, separated or even in the process of divorce. I am here to help you find your way back to feeling connected.
My approach to couples counseling in San Diego is based on one of the only two empirically tested methods for couples therapy. It is called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Over 90% of the distressed couples that took part in the research study, reported significant improvement I relationship satisfaction after going through the process of EFT based couples therapy. More important yet, EFT couples therapy appears to create long lasting results. The couples that went to the process of EFT based couples counseling showed continued improvements over the following 24 months even after therapy had ended.
Experiencing difficulties in your relationship has an enormous impact in your everyday and in the ability to enjoy life,
it is one of the sources of most distress in and individual life or it can be one of the sources of more happiness and support. Reaching out for help by attending couples therapy in San Diego can be the first step towards finding your spark and connection with your partner, call me to discuss your particular situation.
Some topics that are commonly addressed in couples counseling in San Diego:
- Lack of connection
- Communication problems
- Partners having different goals
- Becoming a family
- Loosing the spark / feeling bored
- Affairs (Emotional / Sexual / Cyber affairs)
- Sexual difficulties
- Stages of life issues
- Growing apart
- Difficulty making decisions
- Anxiety (from one or both partners)
- Depression (from one or both partners)
- Setting boundaries
- Anger management
- Addiction
- Grief
- Trauma
- Lack of trust
- Control issues
If you are experiencing any of these or similar issues and you are looking for a therapist for couples counseling in San Diego, contact me today
Who is a good match for couples therapy in San Diego?
For couples counseling to be effective, both partners have to be committed to the process of therapy, this does not always mean that both partners are sure that they want to stay together. It is not uncommon for couples to come in where one is experiencing uncertain if they want to stay together or end the relationship, what is important is for both people to be fully committed to engage in the process of couples therapy at least for a set amount of time. There is hope even when it might not feel like it right now.
There are three situations where couples therapy might not be a good fit.
- When there is abuse in the relationship
- When there is an active and ongoing affair
- When there is active and ongoing addiction
In all three cases, Individual Therapy is highly recommended for both partners. If you are experiencing abuse and feel unsafe, please seek immediately.
Who needs premarital counseling in San Diego?
Someone asked the question and someone said Yes! Congratulations! By now you might be wondering why you are both feeling so impacted by stress when this should be a purely joyful moment in your lives. Are you finding yourselves having more arguments than before? You might even be wondering if this is what marriage is going to be like? I want to you to know that is very common to have answered yes to any of these questions. A wedding is a very important ceremony, it signals a new stage in life. I want to help you both manage the stress that comes along with wedding planning but more than that, I want to help you learn how to untangle and manage your emotional ups and downs. My goal is to give you tools that will help lay the foundation of a successful marriage.
How I can help you as a premarital couples therapist in San Diego:
One of the tools that I use is an online questionnaire called Prepare-Enrich that will give us a more detailed view of both your strengths and areas of growth individually and as a couple.
Other areas that we often work on during premarital couples counseling in San Diego are:
- Learning effective communication
- Manage expectations
- Making decisions together
- Becoming We without loosing Me
- Setting boundaries between partners and as couple with the respective families
- Blending families
- Healing past wounds>
- Learning to understand the couples patterns (Positive and negative)
- Working as a team to set common goals
- Financial issues
- Sexual Issues
- Cultural Issues
- Religious identity
- Role expectations
- Creating bonding rituals.
If you are interested in starting your life together with a solid foundation, premarital therapy in San Diego is a great gift to give to yourselves. Contact me, as a premarital therapist in San Diego, I typically meet with the couple between 3 to 10 sessions depending on each situation. You can {text me} or reach out to discuss your case.
